Society has been evolving since mankind evolved from monkeys. However, it’s the rate of evolution that is staggering. Intel co-founder Gordon E. Moore, wrote a 1965 paper that predicted that the number of transistors on integrated circuits doubles approximately every two years. Moore’s Law is now applied to processing speed, computer memory capacity, sensors and even the number and size of pixels in digital cameras. I suggest that you can apply it to the rate of change in our evolving society. The advent of the internet radically changed the way we communicate. Smartphones have radically changed the way we live.
Accordingly, this fast changing technology is accelerating the evolution of relationships. It is breaking down barriers because information and the ability to quickly learn anywhere in the world is changing societies. A few facts to illustrate my point, coursey of a Research Now survey of more than 5,000 singles for Match.com:
- In the singles market, 86% are fine with interracial marriage
- 80% are fine with interfaith marriage
- 76% are fine with long-term live-in partners
- 65% are fine with same-sex marriage
- 53% are fine with having children outside marriage.
- 78% are not fine with sexually open marriages
- 62% are not fine with long-distance marriages
- 20% say having sex on a first date is OK; 80% disagree.
- 40% of women and 48% of men say that they have sent a sexually explicit text message; 36% of women and 35% of men have sent a sexy photo.
- 31% say that they have converted a one-night stand into a relationship
- 28% have had “friends with benefits” turn into a commitment
Imagine these statistics in the 1800’s. 1900’s. Even in the early 2000’s. Admittedly, the survey audience of Match.com is somewhat skewed versus the rest of the world, but it represents trends that are certainly forthcoming.
But LOVE isn’t a technology. LOVE is a precious flower that needs to be nurtured to be grown. LOVE isn’t a technology. It will forever be “unplugged”. Like anything organic, it can certainly be enhanced or destroyed by the misapplication of technology.
How will you utilize technology with regards to LOVE moving forward?