WHY VALENTINE’S DAY IS NOT IMPORTANT

Valentine’s Day, one of the original greeting card days, wasn’t designed to honor somebody named Valentine. It was designed to sell greeting cards. Columbus Day honors Christopher Columbus. President’s Day honors American Presidents. Veteran’s Day honors our veterans.  Truly, V-DAY is a misnomer.  However, Valentine moments each day throughout the year makes all the difference in the world.  Instead of gearing up for that one day a year when you are going to put on your chivalry cap and be a great date, why not try joyfully planning a date with anyone you are taking out?  Your family, colleagues, and even acquaintances matter nearly as much as a significant other.  And I certainly hope you treat your partner in life with great respect and honor.  Therefore, think about the four keys in Dating for Life and honor the original Greek derivative of the word DATE (didonal) which means to honor. Not only will you have a better time, but you may even develop a sustainable friendship well beyond what you expected.

Happy Valentine moments!

V-DAY REVISITED

It’s going to be an invasion. You don’t know where the beachhead will occur, but you are destined to be taken over. The messages have been sent but are encrypted. V-Day is underway. It’s not a violent overthrow. Sadly February 14 can also signify “National I am Single Day.” Don’t worry.

You’re not a bad person, nor is the invader.  The net result of this invasion is hopefully a major shift for the positive:  a change of heart. Be receptive to opportunities to make new acquaintances, bolster friendships, familial bonds or the possible love of your life.  As the Lord says, Thy will, not My will.  Don’t look for the love of your life.  Look for love in your life—love of any sort.

Valentine’s Day isn’t intended to be strictly for lovers.  Do you remember the days in grade school when you gave the kids in your class candy hearts?  You also gave your teacher a candy heart. Why should it be different when you mature and grow older?  If you instead grow wiser, you may, in fact, learn from your children. Similar to Santa Claus, Valentine’s Day is a spirit, and similarly it is the spirit of giving.

The REAL story behind Valentine’s Day?  It’s just another day in the calendar of life. What you do with it is up to you.  So HOW do you want to live this day?  In joy or sadness?  (Trick question—HAVE FUN with Dating for Life.)

THE CONTINUING SAGA OF VALENTINE’S DAY

vday-sageThe concept of St. Valentine’s Day stems from a liturgical celebration of an early Christian saint named Valentinus. According to martyr-ology he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire. During his imprisonment, he purportedly healed the daughter of his jailer Asterius. Before his execution he wrote “from your Valentine” as a farewell to her.

Fast forward to Joyce Clyde Hall, owner of a family store, who changed his business model in 1906 to wholesaling postcards. As time went on, he became convinced that greeting cards would become more prominent than postcards, as they represented class, promised discretion and were an emerging social custom. By 1915, the company was known as Hall Brothers and sold Valentine’s Day and Christmas cards. You guessed it—they changed their name shortly afterward to be Hallmark Cards.

Valentinus was put to death for his chivalry. Thankfully, it doesn’t work that way today. But since there are over 125 million singles over age 16 in America, and approximately one-half of them haven’t had a date in two years, is it any wonder that Valentine’s Day also marks the end of National Heartbreak Season?  It doesn’t have to be this way. Separate romance from dating, and focus on going out and having a good time. Don’t seek to find a relationship; seek to find someone to do things with.  Life is about living. More to follow!

NATIONAL BREAKUP SEASON?

Reed Tucker, writer for the NY Post, wrote a timely article on January 6, 2013. The period from pre-Christmas to Valentine’s Day has now come to be known as “National Breakup Season,” a time when couples are more than twice as likely to call it quits as the rest of the year.

Reed references that data cruncher David McCandless analyzed more than 10,000 status updates on Facebook in 2010, and found that breakups began climbing at the end of November, peaking just before Christmas. Another spike appeared just before spring. The article describes some telltale signs to predict when the axe may fall, such as no physical intimacy, less chit chat in e-mails or texts, or when one partner wants the other one to change.

I contend that the primary reason National Breakup Season could even exist is that these couples weren’t practicing the principles of dating for life.  What could be a more joyous time than the holiday seasons and Valentine’s Day, that is if you are with the right person. Therefore, when a distressed couple first met, did they form their relationship beyond mere physical attraction?  Do they have a great deal in common? Do they like to do things together all the time?  Chances are the relationship doesn’t have enough connectivity for make its bonds strong.

If their relationship began with strong connectivity, but each partner failed to practice chivalry and continue great dating practices, then the once sterling silver partnership has now tarnished. No matter how busy life becomes, nothing could be more important than true love—never sacrifice it for other pursuits.

The good news for ALL COUPLES—Valentine’s Day is less than a month away. Begin your chivalry NOW and rekindle the flames. Don’t wait and bring home the predictable cliché card and roses. Surprise your lover with a unique, true-to-you date. I guarantee you’ll see a weary partner come to life. Finally, if your surprise works well, then maybe you’ll understand that you should never stop dating, no matter how long you’ve been together! #DatingforLife  matters.

 

WHY FATHERS SHOULD STILL BE DATING FOR LIFE

lovedadSoon we will be celebrating Father’s Day.  It’s a quirky, American Greetings-type day for sure.  It doesn’t take much to become a father, just some frisky spermatozoa, which actually deserves the credit for its arduous journey.  However, it takes a whole lot more to BE a father.  Familyshare.com has a posting that describes nine qualities in detail that make up a great father. To paraphrase:

  1. He is a steady provider
  2. He is a protector
  3. He is a teacher
  4. He is a friend
  5. He lives by example
  6. He lives by honor
  7. He is a disciplinarian
  8. He is a spiritual leader
  9. He treats his wife like a queen and shares the workload as a partner

I would argue that quality #9 needs to be on top, for without supporting a partner with love, devotion and chivalry, the family unit will be stressed if not torn apart. Perhaps that is one of the reasons there is a near 50% divorce rate for first marriages. Unfortunately, when a father or mother become all-consumed with parenting, often romance takes a back seat, and the spontaneity of a vibrant relationship becomes “old hat.”

Still, married or divorced, its not too late to give the perfect gift to any DAD who may have forgotten why it’s important to be Dating for Life. The origin of the word “Date” is the Greek term didonal which means “to give.” Cherish any love in your life and treat that person to a good date. Chivalry and respect matter from a father to a daughter or son; from a daughter or son to a father; and from a spouse to a husband. Enjoy your Father’s Day.

 

FREE FOR YOUR SWEETHEART!

Hsweetestdayere’s a VALENTINE’S DAY gift for you to give to ANYONE you consider sweet—a FREE DATING FOR LIFE e-bookIn an age when chivalry is tarnished and needs some polishing, it never hurts to brush up on how to treat anyone you associate with as if you were on a date. In case you forgot, the four keys to Dating for Life are:

  1. Pursue common interests
  2. Set no expectations
  3. Learn and grow
  4. Express gratitude

But how do they apply to everyday living?  FIND OUT.  Please go to AMAZON on Thursday February 12 through Saturday February 14 and download your free e-book, DATING FOR LIFE. After you read my book, I guarantee you will have a healthier outlook on how to interface with your friends, business colleagues, family, and of course any romantic interest. Download my book, and please subscribe to my weekly newsletter by going to my www.DATINGFORLIFE.com site.  I promise to give you valuable tips and insights throughout the entire year. If friendship and romance make the world go around, then DATING FOR LIFE keeps it spinning. Best wishes, Craig S. Wilson Author

WHY VALENTINE’S DAY IS NOT IMPORTANT

vdayimportantValentine’s Day isn’t meant to honor somebody named Valentine. Columbus Day honors Christopher Columbus. President’s Day honors American Presidents. Veteran’s Day honors our veterans.  Truly, V-DAY is a misnomer.  However, Valentine moments each day throughout the year makes all the difference in the world.  Instead of gearing up for that one day a year when you are going to put on your chivalry cap and be a great date, why not try joyfully planning a date with anyone you are taking out?  Your family, colleagues, and even acquaintances matter nearly as much as a significant other.  And I certainly hope you treat your partner in life with great respect and honor.  Therefore, think about the four keys in Dating for Life and honor the original Greek derivative of the word DATE (didonal) which means to honor. Not only will you have a better time, but you may even develop a sustainable friendship well beyond what you expected.

Happy Valentine moments!

V-DAY REVISITED

V-DAY REVISITEDIt’s going to be an invasion. You don’t know where the beachhead will occur, but you are destined to be taken over. The messages have been sent but are encrypted. V-Day is underway. It’s not a violent overthrow. You’re not a bad person, nor is the invader.  The net result of this invasion is hopefully a major shift for the positive:  a change of heart. Be receptive to opportunities to make new acquaintances, bolster friendships, familial bonds or the possible love of your life.  As the Lord says, Thy will, not My will.

Valentine’s Day isn’t intended to be strictly for lovers.  Do you remember the days in grade school when you gave the kids in your class candy hearts?  You also gave your teacher a candy heart. Why should it be different when you mature and grow older?  If you instead grow wiser, you may, in fact, learn from your children. Similar to Santa Claus, Valentine’s Day is a spirit, and similarly it is the spirit of giving.

The REAL story behind Valentine’s Day?  It’s just another day in the calendar of life. What you do with it is up to you.  So HOW do you want to live this day?  In joy or sadness?  (Trick question—HAVE FUN with Dating for Life.)

THE REAL STORY BEHIND VALENTINE’S DAY

valentineI wrote this article in January, 2013. Of course it’s timeless. Read it but then read the bottom line at the end for the “real story behind Valentine’s Day.

St. Valentine’s Day began as a liturgical celebration of an early Christian saint named Valentinus. According to martyr-ology he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire. During his imprisonment, he purportedly healed the daughter of his jailer Asterius. Before his execution he wrote “from your Valentine” as a farewell to her.

Fast forward to Joyce Clyde Hall, owner of a family store, who changed his business model in 1906 to wholesaling postcards. As time went on, he became convinced that greeting cards would become more prominent than postcards, as they represented class, promised discretion and were an emerging social custom. By 1915, the company was known as Hall Brothers and sold Valentine’s Day and Christmas cards. You guessed it—they changed their name shortly afterward to be Hallmark Cards.

Valentinus was put to death for his chivalry. Thankfully, it doesn’t work that way today. But since there are 107 million singles in America, and approximately one-half of them haven’t had a date in two years, is it any wonder that Valentine’s Day also marks the end of National Heartbreak Season?  It doesn’t have to be this way. Separate romance from dating, and focus on going out and having a good time. Don’t seek to find a relationship; seek to find someone to do things with.  Life is about living.

The REAL story behind Valentine’s Day?  It’s just another day in the calendar of life. What you do with it is up to you.  So HOW do you want to live this day?  In joy or sadness?  (Trick question—HAVE FUN with Dating for Life.)

SIX TIPS TO HAPPINESS

happyexitIt is the second week of January, 2015.  Are you any happier than you were last year? Here are suggestions for any scenario:

  1. Are you recently single for any variety of reasons?  Then celebrate the new opportunity that lies ahead for you and take the high road.
  2. Are you recently in a relationship for any variety of reasons?  Then celebrate the new opportunity that lies ahead for you and take the high road.
  3. Are you entering a new phase of employment/unemployment for any variety of reasons?  Then celebrate the new opportunity that lies ahead for you and take the high road.
  4. Are you still in a career or relationship that is no longer as exciting for you as it once was?  Then celebrate what is good about it but also consider how you can make things better.
  5. Are you alone? Then celebrate what you like about being alone, but take the high road with yourself and consider the opportunities that abound to change whatever scenario you are presently in.
  6. Are you in poor health?  Again, focus on what can be done, and be grateful for the blessings that you have.

If you are chagrinned because my tips are generalizing, trite, or simplified, read them again. You have a choice in each situation you face in life: acknowledge or resist. The definition of “resist” means to “fight or struggle” which means to waste your energy and spirit. To “acknowledge” means to “recognize or admit” which is the beginning of change. Ignorance is not bliss; it is ignorance. Forgiveness is divine. And Grace is the ability to move forward with no baggage and devote your time to the pursuit of happiness. Although each scenario may be complicated, the answer is relatively simple if you truly desire to be happy.