Trite, old-fashioned lines in a wedding ceremony? Don’t bet on it.
Love. Love is love. There is no other word in the English language that can properly describe it. Authors have written countless similes and metaphors to describe love, but simply put, there is no other word for “love” than LOVE. But does love conquer all, as the saying goes? It should and it could, but it doesn’t. Love isn’t a principle; love is an emotion, a state of being. In religions, love can even mean the embodiment of God. There have even been a “manuals” written for LOVE. Buddhists have their Tripiṭaka; Muslims have the Quran; Jews have the Torah; Christians have the Bible (New Testament teachings of Jesus.) Yet, the adherence to LOVE in each of these scriptures varies greatly. Why? Perhaps because the writings were still written by mortal man.
Honor. There are abundant synonyms to the word HONOR, ranging from deify and glorify to praise, canonize, or exalt. Honor is closely related to honesty and integrity. To establish any kind of relationship, it helps if you love or at least like the person. But it matters more that you give honor. No relationship can be built upon of foundation of mistrust and deceit. Therefore, trust comes from honor.
Cherish. There are also abundant synonyms to the word CHERISH, ranging from appreciate and treasure, to encourage and nourish. To be a true partner, it is not enough to simply honor another. Partnerships of any kind require a mutually beneficial support. It is not enough simply care for another person without telling him or her that they matter and be there for them. Thankfulness comes from being cherished.
Forgive. “To err is human; to forgive, divine.” Alexander Pope, a noted 18th century poet certainly had the insight to understand the mortal condition. Perhaps we are but spirits put onto Earth to understand the human condition, but human we are. As many scriptures strongly note, we are born into sin. In each individual’s quest to live a more perfect life, simply put, he or she are still bound to “screw up.” That is our nature. The question becomes how to rectify the situation? Absolution is the only practical solution. It’s not a “get out of jail free” card, but is certainly a way to “reboot” from a grievance and move on.
LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH AND FORGIVE. What matters most in these simple words? That they are verbs, not nouns. Put them to use in any relationship you have. You will lead a better life.