Did you know that the human brain measures lust within one-fifth of a second? The visual attraction and male or female stimulation or endorphins happens almost immediately. Unfortunately, too many times is this confused with actual love. Lust in this context is defined as “an intense sexual desire or appetite.” Love is almost indefinable, but in essence is “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.”
Interestingly, both the head and the heart confirm true love. The brain gets a hunch, but the heart actually confirms these feelings over many weeks if not years dependent upon the complexities of each individual. On average, it only takes a male 10 minutes to know whether or not he wants to take a blind date out for a second time; it takes an average of one hour for a woman to determine her course of action. Why? Women normally have a much more complex set of parameters (checklist) that they use to determine and confirm a relationship.
The problem with lust or love is that too often Hollywood and TV perpetuate lust, or the feeling of initially falling in love, as the newsworthy moment. It isn’t. The net result is our “fast results oriented” society often wants the quick fix of instant love. These are siren calls from a distant shore. Anyone who loves the idea of “falling in love” will likely not do so. Love takes work. As I can’t say it any better, this quote from a reliable authority on the subject sums it up best:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” — Corinthians 13:4-7.