Let’s compare LOVE to the HOLY GRAIL. I researched this subject, and found that “grail” from an Old French word, “grail” or “greal,” related with Old Provençal “grazal” and Old Catalan “gresal”, meaning “a cup or bowl of earth, wood, or metal.” Ah, but the “Holy Grail” is another matter. Going back more than ten centuries it has been described as the “Holy Chalice” that was the cup passed around the Last Supper. The mythical King Arthur pursued it. So did Indiana Jones and the Month Python crew. In Dan Brown’s The Da Vinci Code, the author even describes it as the womb of Mary Magdalene. In any story, the Holy Grail carries awesome powers to change the world. The search of the Holy Grail is a noble quest for any brave soul, and almost always, the quest changes the pursuer’s life. Often these quests become legendary.
Now let’s look at love. Is love real? Is it mythical? Everyone is looking for love. To some it’s a lifelong journey, one that takes on legendary if not noble proportions. Singer Johnny Lee became famous “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places.” But, like the Holy Grail, is LOVE something that you can ever possess? When you find love, then what do you do with it? Why is there no other word that can completely describe LOVE?
Corinthians 13:4-8 spends a paragraph describing LOVE which is why this verse is read in more wedding ceremonies than any other, yet it doesn’t completely describe LOVE.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
I suggest to you that LOVE and THE HOLY GRAIL are very similar. In any relationship, but especially in a romantic relationship, you can never “own” LOVE, any more than you can own an individual. It is the noble pursuit of building a relationship that LOVE will bloom. Like a flower, water it, nourish it, and it will flourish. Take it for granted and ignore it, and it will quickly die. And like the Holy Grail, we all drink from the same chalice. Sharing LOVE is what makes the world go around.
On this Valentine’s Day, don’t treat the day as an obligatory ritual to honor the one you love once a year. Instead, use this day as a springboard to engage in the noble pursuit of a perfect love with your partner. Every day is a gift; Dating for Life will ensure that you never alter what gets you to the altar.