Valentine’s Day, one of the original greeting card days, wasn’t designed to honor somebody named Valentine. It was designed to sell greeting cards. Columbus Day honors Christopher Columbus. President’s Day honors American Presidents. Veteran’s Day honors our veterans.  Truly, V-DAY is a misnomer.  However, Valentine moments each day throughout the year makes all the difference in the world.  Instead of gearing up for that one day a year when you are going to put on your chivalry cap and be a great date, why not try joyfully planning a date with anyone you are taking out?  Your family, colleagues, and even acquaintances matter nearly as much as a significant other.  And I certainly hope you treat your partner in life with great respect and honor.  Therefore, think about the four keys in Dating for Life and honor the original Greek derivative of the word DATE (didonal) which means to honor. Not only will you have a better time, but you may even develop a sustainable friendship well beyond what you expected.

Happy Valentine moments!


It’s going to be an invasion. You don’t know where the beachhead will occur, but you are destined to be taken over. The messages have been sent but are encrypted. V-Day is underway. It’s not a violent overthrow. Sadly February 14 can also signify “National I am Single Day.” Don’t worry.

You’re not a bad person, nor is the invader.  The net result of this invasion is hopefully a major shift for the positive:  a change of heart. Be receptive to opportunities to make new acquaintances, bolster friendships, familial bonds or the possible love of your life.  As the Lord says, Thy will, not My will.  Don’t look for the love of your life.  Look for love in your life—love of any sort.

Valentine’s Day isn’t intended to be strictly for lovers.  Do you remember the days in grade school when you gave the kids in your class candy hearts?  You also gave your teacher a candy heart. Why should it be different when you mature and grow older?  If you instead grow wiser, you may, in fact, learn from your children. Similar to Santa Claus, Valentine’s Day is a spirit, and similarly it is the spirit of giving.

The REAL story behind Valentine’s Day?  It’s just another day in the calendar of life. What you do with it is up to you.  So HOW do you want to live this day?  In joy or sadness?  (Trick question—HAVE FUN with Dating for Life.)


vday-sageThe concept of St. Valentine’s Day stems from a liturgical celebration of an early Christian saint named Valentinus. According to martyr-ology he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire. During his imprisonment, he purportedly healed the daughter of his jailer Asterius. Before his execution he wrote “from your Valentine” as a farewell to her.

Fast forward to Joyce Clyde Hall, owner of a family store, who changed his business model in 1906 to wholesaling postcards. As time went on, he became convinced that greeting cards would become more prominent than postcards, as they represented class, promised discretion and were an emerging social custom. By 1915, the company was known as Hall Brothers and sold Valentine’s Day and Christmas cards. You guessed it—they changed their name shortly afterward to be Hallmark Cards.

Valentinus was put to death for his chivalry. Thankfully, it doesn’t work that way today. But since there are over 125 million singles over age 16 in America, and approximately one-half of them haven’t had a date in two years, is it any wonder that Valentine’s Day also marks the end of National Heartbreak Season?  It doesn’t have to be this way. Separate romance from dating, and focus on going out and having a good time. Don’t seek to find a relationship; seek to find someone to do things with.  Life is about living. More to follow!